To the editor: I very a lot loved studying visitor contributor Amy Getubig’s piece (“Girls aren’t too choosy to this point. They simply don’t want males to really feel fulfilled,” April 9). I definitely don’t query her experiences, however two issues did come out to me.
First, she brings up a cliché: “Los Angeles is a metropolis constructed on reinvention. Individuals come right here to create one thing.” This isn’t actually the expertise for the broad swath of people that have been born in L.A. and whose social circles additionally comprise individuals who have been born right here.
And sure, individuals from different components of the nation do come right here to reinvent. However as somebody who grew up right here, my pals who felt a powerful have to reinvent additionally moved away to locations like San Francisco, Seattle, New York Metropolis and Portland, Ore. I’m positive Getubig’s assertion is true for numerous transplants, however it doesn’t actually clarify Los Angeles to anybody who isn’t a part of that transplant group.
I discovered her different insights compelling and intriguing. Nonetheless, there appears to be a generalization made. There are each women and men who may need relationships, however whose life expertise may be very totally different due to age. Women and men of their mid-20s and women and men of their late 30s and early 40s reside very totally different lives and are in very totally different locations in turning into who they’re. It’s not a one-size-fits-all factor.
I’d suppose that extra nuanced explanations can be welcome after studying this excellent first step at explaining the current scenario.
Jerome Vered, Los Angeles
