DEAR MISS MANNERS: Every so often, my husband and I go to native eating places. After I go to scrub my palms within the girls’ room, I usually discover that the sinks and flooring want consideration.
I depart, palms unwashed, and inform the closest worker that the women’ room wants consideration. I normally additionally discover the supervisor.
Every so often, nothing occurs, and I’ve to depend on the prepackaged “moist naps” that I carry in my purse to sanitize my palms.
Even when the room is clear, I keep away from utilizing the door deal with when exiting. I wait for an additional woman to depart, and observe her intently, utilizing my elbows to handle the door.
What, oh expensive, if I wanted that facility for greater than washing my palms or powdering my nostril? I’ve rapidly left eating places with my husband when nobody attends the ability. What may I say to the supervisor, apart from “I want to make use of your girls’ room, now, and it’s too soiled to make use of”?
What ought to I do? Even in completely beautiful eating places, this occurs. What is going on to the world? Sure, I’ve dined in D.C. and have discovered the identical situation.
GENTLE READER: That was not Miss Manners’ subsequent query, really, however OK.
Far be it for her to be within the place of defending a unclean rest room, however she can not assist noticing that your requirements are fairly excessive. And that the women you might be “following intently,” along with your elbows all akimbo, may need one thing to say about your answer.
If not one of the bogs — be the eating places beautiful, native and/or in D.C. — are as much as your requirements, you could need to eat at residence. Though the business can all the time take word and do higher.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: What diploma of ritual is correct for a musician at a day live performance?
As a performer of a sure age, I’ve seen every thing from tailor-made clothes to robes glittering with beads and spangles — and for males, something from essentially the most informal outfits to formal put on. Size of skirt not appears to matter, because the skimpiest clothes go to formal affairs and full-length granny clothes are seen on the grocery retailer at 9 a.m.
GENTLE READER: Maybe costume size feels irrelevant by way of trend (though Miss Manners will nonetheless quibble along with your extra excessive examples), however it’s actually related by way of perform — particularly for a musician.
Skimpy clothes don’t play nicely with harps, cellos and basses. Knees ought to be well-covered, it doesn’t matter what time of day, until the performer is planning a secondary present.
For a day occasion, tea-length (one thing that falls round midcalf) is predicted for girls in dressy day materials (silk, organza, cotton with some sheen), whereas daytime fits are anticipated for males (in grey, black or navy materials with no sheen).
The purpose is for garments to be polished, impartial, useful and free from distraction. The music ought to be the point of interest, not glittery issues that catch the sunshine and blind the conductor — and positively not the uncovered undergarments of the performers.
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