DEAR ABBY: My husband and I married 20 years in the past. We have now a blended household of eight children, but it surely’s simply us now.
Our children are scattered throughout the nation. Over all these 20 years, we now have by no means taken a trip only for us. We have now at all times visited household.
Now, after scrimping, saving and planning, our dream journey is lastly occurring. We’re visiting Disneyland! Drawback is, our youngest simply relocated to L.A.
I purchased tickets, scheduled excursions and reserved meals for simply the 2 of us. However my husband has included our son in the whole lot now — all park visits, dinners, and so on.
Don’t get me fallacious — I really like my children, however this was presupposed to be “our” time.
I agreed to at least one dinner with our son, however apart from that, we’re on our personal. My husband needs to incorporate him in the whole lot as a result of he lives shut by.
Now my husband says he doesn’t need to go in any respect. He insists that our son partake in the whole lot we do, however I need this journey to be about us. We deserve this! How do I persuade him that we want this journey? — DISAPPOINTED IN OHIO
DEAR DISAPPOINTED: You shouldn’t must persuade your husband to comply with by way of in your dream trip. He ought to have consulted you earlier than inviting your son and telling him he will likely be included in the whole lot.
You wrote that you just scrimped and saved for years to afford this trip. How does he intend to pay for all these further bills for a 3rd individual?
In case your husband doesn’t need an expertise “only for the 2 of you,” enable me to counsel it might be time to schedule one thing only for your self. You may have earned it.
DEAR ABBY: I used to be engaged to my husband for 3 years earlier than we acquired married. A bit of greater than a 12 months in the past, he was informed that he had two years to stay.
Six months later, we celebrated our twenty fifth marriage ceremony anniversary, and 10 days after that, he handed away.
I’ve met a person who is 2 years youthful than I’m who makes me giggle once more. I really feel like a schoolgirl after I’m round him. He needs to be a roommate, stay with me and sleep upstairs.
I sleep downstairs, however I don’t know if I ought to let him or not. Recommendation? — FEELING A BIT SCARED IN INDIANA
DEAR FEELING: Would this man be paying you lease and shopping for meals, or would you be selecting up the tab? If all he needs is to be your platonic roommate, however you might be bodily drawn to him, I like to recommend towards continuing with the association.
You’d discover it more and more painful and irritating, and if you lastly had had sufficient ache and frustration, you may need to rent an lawyer that will help you get him out.
What appears engaging now might be an enormous ache within the posterior, and I assure it wouldn’t depart you laughing. Maintain issues as they’re till the connection turns into extra outlined.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
